Halloween is my favorite holiday.
Halloween is my husband’s favorite holiday.
Except this year.
This year there is not a single decoration. This year we each carved one pumpkin, which are still in the back of the car, out of obligation when we were invited to a carving party. This year neither of us give a flying fuck about Halloween.
We should have a living baby. We should be trick or treating with them tonight. We should have run around to find him/her the perfect costume, we should have helped them carve a pumpkin and proudly share it on FB. We shouldn’t be alone tonight watching all of the other happy families celebrate. This is not what this year was supposed to be like.
And it’s not just Halloween. It’s seeing the Thanksgiving and Christmas stuff come out. It’s knowing that the ex-neighbor is closer and closer to having her son. That they will get to celebrate his first Thanksgiving and first Christmas with him this year. And the knowing that it shouldn’t matter and getting pissed at myself for going down that road. It’s knowing that if I can’t get behind what was always my favorite holiday than Thanksgiving and Christmas are going to suck just as much. It’s the pressure that I am supposed to love Halloween and people were expecting me to having my decorations out, my intricate pumpkins, and that I don’t. The pressure that always comes with Christmas, to get decorations out, trim the tree, make it the most “wonderful time of the year” when all I want to do is crawl into a hole with a bottle of Jack Daniels and not come out.
I don’t give a flying fuck about anything. I feel like a ghost, just going through my day, going through the motions.